How to send all?
Probably, if in your life there was such a question,then you are faced with a traumatic psycho-emotional situation. Either the environment tries to teach you and imposes its opinion on important spheres of life, or annoy external commentators who criticize your appearance, style of life, thoughts, in general everything. The natural desire of any normal person in such cases is to think: "but how to send everyone to ..." - while, of course, without striking the dirt in the face. The tactics of behavior in both cases should, on the one hand, be similar, and on the other, differ.
What is similar in how to send a friend and a stranger to you?
First, this solution needs to be emotionallyinternally to come. Try to understand why you are annoyed with someone else's opinion, someone else's lifestyle, tried on you. Realize that only you are responsible for your life and your decisions. Neither parents nor "Internet savvy critics" will feel the consequences of your actions. In the middle or the end of life there will be no one to blame if he created a family with the wrong person, chose the wrong job, etc. Thus, remember one rule: whoever says anything about you, words do not mean anything. If someone criticizes you, then he must either be able to do better or at least the same way, or his criticism is worthless. Just ignore the opinions of theorists and philosophers. Listen only to those who are really important to you, usually 3-4 people from the closest circle. After the internal decision is made, select a strategy of behavior or a combination of them. You can:
- Just ignore what you said. Yes, this is a passive type of defense, but very effective. A person does not receive a reaction to his opinion - the person no longer expresses it. If it's difficult just not to pay attention, then nod, as if agreeing with an opponent, and then do it your way anyway;
- Enter into a more / less hard argument with the critic,consistently breaking his arguments. The critic will be angry, prove to you that you are stupid and do not understand anything in the subject, but will subsequently always understand that in reply to his unpleasant words an unpleasant answer will always be prepared for him. The main thing in such a case is to struggle with the fear of offending someone. Knowing how beautifully to send everyone, you not only protect yourself, but also develop if not respect, then fear of yourself from others;
- If it is necessary to send unrelated relatives, you can express your attitude to them or their opinion through some act. For example, do not invite such people to your birthday.
How can you send a loved one?
What is the difference between settingborders with close people and unfamiliar critics? Always remember that close people, although not always right, but for the most part genuinely worry about your well-being, try nevertheless to peacefully state their position to them, ask not to interfere in your life, to inspire that you want to live it yourself, without constant control from the outside. In this situation it is very useful to read the article How to restrain emotions. Do not ignore it, because the settlement of conflicts in the family is the highest level of negotiation, and the intensity of the passions is always high there.
We hope that we have provided a useful guide to action, and you will use it wisely to know how to send everyone beautifully, but do not offend those who are really needed in life.